Classroom Advice for Life

Note: I am thinking of making this a rather large poster for my classroom next year.

How to Succeed in Room 105
0r, How to Not Suck at Life

1.  Be prepared.

This means so much more than bringing the physical necessities, like books, paper, pencils, and pens.  Yes, you will need to bring those, but there are mental tools you need to bring to every situation as well.  Are you ready to listen?  Are you ready to challenge yourself?  Are you ready to try?  

2.  Be reflective.

Listen carefully: life is not about the points.  Let me repeat that: life is not about the points.  If you are only worried about someone else’s evaluation of what you are doing, you are missing the big picture.  What matters is what YOU think about it.  Are you learning the process?  Are you mastering the skills?  What can you do better?  What are your strengths? 

3.  Be respectful.

There is more than one source of learning and support in my class, so being respectful isn’t just about me.  Being respectful means listening with an open mind to suggestions and ideas from peers AND the teacher.  Being respectful means holding yourself in regard high enough to realize that your education is your responsibility.  Being respectful means treating the people and things in your environment with consideration and the awareness that you are not the center of the universe.

4.  Be passionate.

Even if you have to fake it, be passionate in what you do.  I guarantee you will get more out of class, out of any activity, if you find something within to pursue with passion.  There will be times you will love what you have to do and times when it’s a yawn.  We are only guaranteed a finite number of days: snoozing through things without finding the  good stuff seems like an awful waste of time.

5.  Be humble.

Humble doesn’t mean thinking you suck at life.  Humble means being aware of your areas needing growth.  Humble means being aware that you do need to grow.  Humble means you know that everyone has different strengths, and some people may be stronger at some things than you are, and you have an amazing opportunity to learn from them.  Humble means not putting yourself above anyone or anything else.

6.  Work hard.

My motto is: you get out of it what you put into it.  In other words, if you want to get something out of my class, out of school in general, and/or out of any pursuit in life, you have to put something in to it.  The more you put into it, the more you will get out of it.  This is how the universe works.  Even if you don’t like the plot of the book we’re reading, understand that you are learning thinking skills that are vital, so focus on what you’re getting out of it.

7.  Collaborate.

If there is one skill you absolutely need to master not only for class but before you embark on your journey into the world, it is the ability to work with others.  Let me tell you, there will be times when you would rather bang your head repeatedly against a brick wall with rusty nails protruding from it for a week straight than work with a particular person, but you will have no choice.  Learning how to be patient and compromise or a tactfully strong leader will pay off in dividends, especially when you find the good folks who share the same passions and beliefs with whom to work. 

8.  Think outside the box.

Problems usually have more than one way to solve them if only we are able to step back and see it from all sides.  Especially today, there are a wealth of tools at our disposal to attack writing an essay, collaborating on projects, or planning a big event.  Take time to know the resources you have, like who you could talk to about what topics, the capabilities of the technology to which you have access, the materials that surround you.  If you know them, you will know how to use them.

9.  Encourage others.

Newsflash: life ain’t always easy.  In fact, sometimes it can be just plain overwhelming or downright debilitating.  These are the times when a friendly note or hug or pat on the back can mean the difference between a complete meltdown or the ability to just keep swimming.  Work on being the one who gives that encouragement to those who need it.  You will be surprised at how much being a blessing for someone else will lift your own spirits.

10.  Man up.

There are so many things that influence who we are and who we are becoming, but, and I need you to listen closely, we are responsible for what we choose to do with those influences.  It doesn’t matter what Johnny did before you hit him or that Lisa was cheating, too.  It doesn’t matter that fourteen cars were speeding past you when the police pull you over.  It doesn’t matter that Tyler can ace the test without studying.  You are the one who must deal with the consequences, both bad and good, of the choices you make.  Sometimes, there are no second chances because life doesn’t owe us a blessed thing.  So when you make a choice, own it, and accept the consequences.  They will make you stronger.

Ghostbusting

The movie Poltergeist terrifies me.  It doesn’t matter that it’s been years since its release or that I am no longer eight-years-old: it is terrifying.  For those of you unfamiliar with the premise of the movie, and its subsequent sequels, a collection of supernatural forces, a.k.a. ghosts, basically thirsts for the “life force” of a young girl, Carol Anne, and haunt, terrorize, attack the family in an attempt to assume control of her to serve their purposes.  

There are two scenes in the films that I recall most clearly.  The first involves a clown doll that Carol Anne’s brother had.  The ghosts animate the doll, whose arms grow long enough to wrap around his throat in an attempt to strangle him.  Couple this scene with the fact that my grandmother collected clown figurines, and this chica had a real hard time going into Gram’s basement where they lined the shelves, staring evilly at the passersby.  The second scene comes in the second film, when sweet, blonde, white-nightie-clad Carol Anne, hugging her stuffed animal, answers a child's phone that has just rung of its own accord.  She turns and says, in what is frankly one of the creepiest voices ever, “They’re back.”  

This scene came to mind last night whilst I was lost in a reverie.  Anyone who is goal-oriented, competitive, or conscientious (or all of the above) understands this: there is an inner monologue that drives us to achieve said goals, beat the competition, and/or live with integrity.  This narration has the power to uplift: “You can do this.” “Take a deep breath and take it one day at a time.”  This can be the difference between running the last lap, finishing first, or, my personal favorite, deciding to avoid going to Target on a Sunday because payday is three days away.  However, there is a dark side to its power because as much as it can uplift, it can pull out your legs from beneath you just as easily; perhaps more so.

As I sat last night pondering various things, a sadness began creeping up. This in and of itself is not such a big deal, but those of you who are familiar with my story know I have been struggling with depression and have recently been greatly helped by medication.  Last night, though, as the sadness flitted spectre-like through me, I suddenly heard it: the voice in my head, the nasty one who points out my shortcomings and flaws, my failures and mistakes, the one who harps and harps, the one who ignores the innumerable blessings in my life, the voice was back.  

A year ago, I probably would have succumbed to it; thankfully, because of the medication, I could now hear it and recognize it for what it was.  I got up and did a workout, as there ain’t nothin’ like endorphins to banish those old ghosts.  However, as I was stepping through my workout, escaping the whispering tendrils of negativity, I started to wonder about its origin.  From where does it come?  And what prompts us to allow this apparition pervade our thoughts and linger in the heart?

For some it is brain chemistry and others the ectoplasm of harsh critics or traumatic events.  It may even be a combination of both.  I wonder, too, what others do to combat their particular phantoms.  I mean, I know there is a wealth of information on the web; I know there are thousands of books.  I guess I wonder more about what the people I know do to fight the ghosts, not because it will necessarily work for me but because I want to be able to help them with the fight.  

There is another 80s film springing to mind, at the end of which the city of New York is covered in white sugary goo from the recently destroyed Stay Puft Marshmallow Man that had been wreaking havoc.  I think it’s important to let people know when the ghosts are spewing their green slime.  One can never have too many proton packs to banish them.

Breathe Easier

I have a collection of writings and magnets hanging on my refrigerator. Some are written by people I know, some by my own hand, and others by authors this crazy English-nerd would love to meet.  Each of the pieces represents a stirring or emotion, an inspiration, a reminder of who I want to be, who I am meant to be, and how I want to live.  I wish I could say that I read them on a daily basis.  After all, isn’t the purpose of displaying them to remind me?  Every once in a while, though, I do stop and look through them, but it is amazing how the minutia of every day life distracts me from the big stuff.

This Emerson quote has been one of my favorites for a long time, even though I don’t necessarily ascribe to all of it.  There are things beyond my control, such as winning respect or earning appreciation, and I am not entirely sure that those things rate high on my priority list.  The others, though, they very much speak to the person I hope to be.  

Everyone who knows me knows my laugh can be incredibly obnoxious and loud, almost embarrassingly so, maybe even to the point of irritation to those sitting at the next table or down the hall.  The good thing about being able to annoy people with an obnoxious laugh?  I know I am laughing often enough for them to hear it and laughing a lot.  And while the laughing seems to come more easily for me, the learning to appreciate beauty and leaving the world a bit better require more work.  I literally have to have entire conversations in my head to remind myself to take a deep breath and find the good - in the situation or in a person who might be driving my bananas.

It is the final element of Emerson’s definition of success with which I struggle the most, though the struggle is not so much with the desire to help others but rather the ability to recognize if I am in fact being helpful.  I am sure many people can relate to the days when we wonder if anything we do makes a difference to anyone.  My responses to these kinds of days can be one of two things: a deep sigh followed by a mental curling into the fetal position or a conversation with myself (or the walls - no joke, I do this), often out loud and often in front of people, that questions my sanity and/or purpose.  The former response is more of a defense mechanism while the latter is a release.  Mind you, it’s a comical release when I am in front of 25 students who think I have finally snapped and either want to avoid eye contact lest it be contagious or film it and upload it to youtube. 

I have had several encounters with former students in the past couple of weeks.  This is not so unusual as many of us keep in contact via social networking or occasional dinners; however, these most recent visits have touched my heart on a deeper level than usual.  Just last night, I had dinner with one former student who was recently working abroad.  It was delightful to listen to the tales of his adventures, and the pictures were plentiful and downright gorgeous.  Regardless of the fact that my students have graduated and moved on, it is still something quite special to see the wonderment they continue to have as they learn and discover life in the “real” world.  At the end of the evening, he gave me a souvenir he had brought back.  While that was touching in and of itself, when he told me that he had wanted to get it for me not because it was from another country but rather because he was thankful for me, for being able to talk with me at a crucial time in his life, this hyper-emotional trainwreck had to do everything in her power not to weep openly at the restaurant.  

A hand-carved piece ~ little did he know trees are my favorite!

It is his thoughtfulness that moves me to write this today.  It is his thoughtfulness that prompts me to share another story about a former student who truly inspired me this week:

I coached his twin sister through 6 years of volleyball and taught both him and her in their junior years of English.  Anyone who has or teaches children will understand when I say it with two simple words: Great. Kids.  A couple of years ago, on a trip to a beach, he dove over a wave and broke his neck.  Just like that.  In the briefest of moments.  Having kept in touch with his sister, I was able to witness his progress from afar: an initial diagnosis of an extreme level of paralysis that has since been broken down with the help of an amazing family and support system of friends as well as an indomitable spirit.  

Speaking with him and his sister this week during a visit, I glimpsed that spirit in seven words.  Seven profound words to humble me and inspire me simultaneously.  After sharing some of his favorite pastimes (rugby is a recent favorite) and favorite jokes (free drinks for the kid in the wheelchair?) and flashing back to when it happened, his sister said something about how silly he was in the hospital, even when he first woke up.  I marveled at that, aloud.  His response?

“It never occurred to me to change.”

Faced with what many people, I think myself included, would be unable to face without despair, this young man finds the humor in it.  When I would probably have railed at the unfairness of it all, wailing about everything I would now be unable to do, this young man looks for the things he can do and does so with wild abandon.  What possibly would have crippled my spirit left his completely unscathed and intact.  

I have been blessed with so many people who have touched my life, who have touched my heart.  Family, friends, students, colleagues, players, etc.  For them I am abundantly grateful. I hope I have shared how much you have meant to me at some point.  I hope you know that your presence has made me breathe easier in this life.  I also hope I can return the favor.  

Climb Into My Skin

Stigma, taboo, frowned-upon, shame, unmentionable, guilt, sin, laziness, self-pitying.  

In the past several months, I repeatedly have come across these words in the articles and blogs I read, the conversations I have, and the constant inner-monologue that runs like the ticker tape at the bottom of a news station.  First, a bit of back story.

I am undeservedly blessed.  I have an amazing family who supports me; I have some fantastic friends who rock at being there in the struggles and sharing the silliness; I am fortunate to have a job that may drive me bananas at times but is my true passion; I have a lovely home that keeps me warm and dry; I have a crazy pup who makes me laugh even in the midst of me scolding her for chewing the edge of a windowsill or some other bizarre thing; I am so well-fed I can afford to lose quite a few pounds; I am able to walk without pain, sleep without disruption, and am generally pretty healthy.

I know these things in my head and heart.

Approximately two years ago, however, I began to feel blue, for lack of a better description.  At first, it was just there, rather like a nagging mosquito buzz in the soundtrack of my life.  Gradually, it grew, so gradually that I was not cognizant of it even happening.  I stopped working out.  I stopped reading for pleasure.  I stopped listening to music.  I stopped praying.  I stopped going to church.  Then, for three months last summer, I rarely got off the couch much less left the house.  I watched eight seasons of a television series.  I cried.  A lot.  Sometimes because of the television series, sometimes just because.  If people called to make plans, I often found excuses not to go.  The mosquito had sucked just about all the blood; I basically stopped living.

Again, I knew I was blessed.  In my head and in my heart.  It didn’t matter, though, because I could not get up off the couch.  I could not talk about how sad I felt.  In fact, I actually began to berate myself for being so ungrateful and weak and pathetic.  There is nothing like a heap of self-loathing to top off other tumultuous emotions.

To say depression is misunderstood and, consequently, dismissed is an understatement.  As many others have written, most people hear the word and think, “She’s just sad” or “You can pull yourself out of it!”  I confess to thinking those very things despite actually having a degree in psychology.  I don’t think it anymore.

When I played volleyball in college, I sprained my ankle fairly badly.  Determined not to miss a day of practice, I bit my tongue and cheeks to keep from crying out in pain when the trainer tested my strength.  I succeeded in fooling her only to go down in the first drill.  It didn’t matter that my hands were just fine, or that my lungs were fit, or that my other leg was functioning just dandy.  It didn’t matter that I wanted so badly to be in the drill, my desire could not heal the sprain.  It took time and treatment beyond sheer will.  

This is how I see my depression.  Sometimes, I want more than anything to be happy about all of the blessings, about a silly joke, about the sunrise, but I just cannot.  It’s as though I stood up without thinking and put my full body weight on a sprained ankle: it just doesn’t hold.  Sometimes, I hobble along, feeling the joy and the pain simultaneously, but it’s still there.

After a routine blood test at the end of the summer, time spent tweaking dosages, and a frank conversation with a compassionate, patient, and pretty awesome doctor, the self-loathing is starting to abate.  The reason I say starting is because those awful, awful words keep coming up. 

At the mention of being depressed, or taking medication for that depression, I have received the gamut of responses.  Fortunately, most have been positive and supportive, but there have been misunderstanding and derision.  From “How long do you have to be on the meds?” to “Why on earth do you need to be on Prozac? You’re stronger than that.”  I think most of the people with whom I have shared accept it while not necessarily understanding it, which is one of the greatest things about unconditional love.  

Imagine being paralyzed, unable to speak or move, but fully alert mentally.  As much as you want to tell everyone how you feel, show everyone what you can do, your body is limiting the ways in which you can.  Or, imagine being locked in a room alone with a constant, unending soundtrack of the most negative things about life and yourself playing ceaselessly.  You cannot get out of the room; you cannot turn it off.  And it goes on for hours, days, weeks, months, and/or years...  Both of these are beyond your control and both are incapacitating.  You cannot do it alone.  

My medication unlocks the door.  It turns off the sad and self-deprecating monologue.  It transcends the crutch so I can walk strong.  It destroys the life-sucking mosquito.  It does not make me weak or mean I am crazy.  My medication gives me a voice that had been trapped in the labyrinthine maze of depression.  

An amazing friend of mine recently shared a blog with me, and that blog had links to several others that are all worth reading.  There has been an article trending on yahoo about moms on Xanax.  While I am not a mom, I am a woman struggling with depression.  For those of you who think someone can simply snap out of it, I wonder if you have ever “snapped out of” a kidney stone.  For those of you who think medication is a crutch, I would ask if you believe insulin a crutch for the diabetic or nitroglycerin a crutch for the cardiac patient.  For those of you who think depression is sinful or means a lack of faith, I would encourage you to revisit Job or Psalms.  

For those of you who do not understand depression, I am thankful because you have obviously never felt it.  It is my hope that you never do.  Perhaps, though, with a little compassion and empathy, you can try to heed Harper Lee’s advice:  You never really know someone “until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.”

Makin' Me Tired

I say this quite a bit when I am at work.  

For those of you who don’t know, I am a teacher.  An English teacher by title, but truth-be-told, I am pretty sure I am a life teacher more than anything else.  Don’t get me wrong, I loves me some literature, and I love when my students discover a piece of writing that speaks to them, but I would argue I spend 80% of my time teaching life skills.  Responsibility, respect, compassion, critical thinking, patience, accountability, prioritizing, planning, empathy, integrity, pride, work ethic, coping with emotional turmoil, to name a few.  

A little background about being a teacher: while there are some teachers who do the bare minimum, the majority of us spend an inordinate amount of time planning.  For English/Literature in particular, in addition to reading the literature for ourselves, sometimes for the first time, sometimes for the seventh, in order to be able to answer questions, we also spend time considering an inordinate amount of other things.  Some of the things I consider when planning include what I need to do to introduce the unit so the students have a foundation to help them grasp the material, what activities they will do during that introduction that are relevant to what they will need to do in college and/or life.  How do I support the reading: study guide, required written summaries, blogging, class discussion, reflection prompts, comprehension quizzes, character charts, and/or podcasts?  I will spare you the details of the final evaluation preparation because the list is longer than the one above.  

To be honest, one can find so much of this online or in a teacher’s edition, if you have one of those.  It is also very easy and tempting to simply copy and use the same materials from year to year.  I have been guilty of both at times, but for the most part, these are things I have to consider and decide upon every year.  In fact, most of the time when I come up for an idea for one of my classes and run it past my co-teacher, she looks at me and says, “You know, I think we did that a couple of years ago.  Do you want me to check my files?”  I have several very good friends who also happen to be English teachers who positively rock at their jobs.  I also have several good friends who teach other subjects.  They are creative, innovative, demanding, passionate, collaborative... well, you get the picture.  I am willing to bet that each of them could add so much more to this list that I’ve forgotten.

I am not listing this to brag or lament about the difficulties of teaching, but rather for me to help explain why I say those words every. single. day.  You see, after all of the fun, and I mean that literally because it is my favorite part of teaching, of planning, when the time comes to actually teach what’s been planned, the kids remind me that their worlds ain’t exactly about literature.  They remind me when they get into a heated argument about whether or not the window should be open when the room is hotter than the surface of the sun and the snow flurries from outside melt before they can actually land on the countertop.  They remind me when it is the 110th day of school and they continue to come to a class in which we write every day and ask me for a pen or pencil.  They remind me when they walk out of class, leaving their novels and notebooks on the desk despite having homework.  They remind me.

This is why I say those words every day.  It’s not the teaching part of it because after they all finally get seated and start working, when I am done breaking up the window fight, have distributed all the pencils and paper and extra copies of the books, when I actually have an opportunity to teach about the power of words, I could go on for days!  It is the 4,987,367,093,256 other things that my college did pretty much nothing for which to prepare me.  To be real, people who are considering education should take parenting classes because frankly, that’s what I feel like - the mom away from home.  And I don’t say that to insult the parents; some of them are fantastic and others are lacking.  To put it simply, when my youngest niece asked me why I don’t have any children, I replied, “Because I get about 100 new children every year.”

I have a group of students this year, many of them for the second time around because I taught the younger grade last year.  To say they are challenging is an understatement.  They are bone-wearying, gray-hair-creating, frustrating-until-my-limbs-are-shaking exhausting.  And they’ve been that way for most of their academic careers from what I understand.  If I could print the graphic at the top of this page on a shirt, I would have enough shirts printed for every day.  Then, instead of correcting them, repeating directions, shushing them, etc., I would just point to my shirt.

This week, though, three of those energy-sucking creatures got into another heated argument.  No, it wasn’t about the window - that happened the day before - but it was about the characters in the book they were reading.  They had a legitimate fifteen-minute heated debate about the best way to describe them.  One of those boys, who last year wasn’t much interested in the academic part of school, sat and read his book in study hall in my room, then without being asked, put all the laptops away and plugged them in.  

I have never birthed a child, much less raised one that came from my body.  And the moms out there, you can correct me if I am wrong, but I have to imagine this warmth in my heart is a little spark of pride at their growth.  Mind you, it could very well be the fact that my room feels like the tropical forest on the hottest day of the year, but I think it’s probably pride.  Maybe, just maybe, being tired is worth it.

Falling in Love with Edward Cullen and Other Appetites

I have been a reader for as long as I can remember.  I can recall getting books Christmas morning and finishing them by Christmas night.  Two caveats: I often skimmed the books because I was so excited to find out what happened next, so my comprehension wasn’t necessarily all that hot.  Second, this usually meant I was holed up in some corner reading instead of interacting with my family, which often caused my mom to come snatch me up to join the festivities.  

Some of the titles I read when I was 11 or 12 were quite adult in nature: think V.C. Andrews’ Flowers in the Attic series.  Some were more geared toward young adults (The Incredible Cat Caper), some sophisticated in the science (anything Dean Koontz), and some flat-out creepy (Stephen King, anyone?).  When I think about the books I read when I was in tweendom, I wonder if I truly understood the concepts or if my naive brain just read on the surface level.

I recently read a book about reading in schools, and the premise is that the way reading is presented and “encouraged” in schools is the way to surely kill the pleasure of reading.  I couldn’t agree more.  What was interesting, though, in the beginning of the book was an anecdote he shared about a group of girls reading an article and struggling with it.  The article was about terrorism in the post-9/11 world, and the girls had to answer questions, one of which was about the goals of al Qaeda.  When they called the teacher over to ask for help, they explained that they read the article but they couldn’t answer the one question because they didn’t know who “Al” was.  A perfect example of what I have been coming to believe more and more the longer I read and teach: we get out of literature what we bring to it.


The books I read when I was younger would taste different now.  The horror of a mother locking her children in an attic would leave a bitter aftertaste.  The antics of a would-be preteen detective discovering the identity of a cat burglar would be the lingering sweetness of the penny candy I used to get at the dairy every summer.  A creeping clown hiding in sewers? Acrid on my tongue.

It is not just age, or experience, as was the case with the girls who weren’t familiar with al Qaeda. I believe our emotional states at the time we read a book will render that book powerful enough to knock the wind from us or bland enough to collect dust on the shelf, never to be read again.  Aside: I am an avid re-reader!  There are times when a movie jogs a memory of a phrase, or a TV show reminds me of a plot, or a song elicits the mood of a favorite book, and I quite literally go to my book room to find the book and find the spot... with some of the books, I know them so well I can open to the general area and find it within minutes.  Others take yet another re-reading to get there.


Many people think I am nuts for re-reading, but I so frequently find deeper meanings or more relevant insights or just funny stuff that I missed the first time(s) in my quest to discover the ending.  For instance, I have re-read To Kill a Mockingbird every year for the past 15 while I am teaching it.  Every year, I discover something new.  There was the year that I was reading aloud, and I read the name of the dog’s owner.  You know, the dog Atticus had to kill?  Yeah, well, when I asked my squirrelly juniors to tell me about Harry Johnson, there were more than a few chuckles.  It wasn’t until I had said it out loud that I realized the double entendre.  Then there was the year when we were going through Atticus’s closing argument, and Lee actually writes the words “no child left behind.”  My epiphany, and horror, was thinking that the horrendous law that has made education barely tolerable came from one of the best books ever written.  (If it did, Ms. Lee, I apologize on behalf of humanity for it.)

There are young adult books I read now that I know would have zoomed right over my head if I had actually read them as a young adult.  The Book Thief? There is no way I would have caught, and thus fell in love with, the subtle allusions and beautiful reflection of such an ugly time.  The Hunger Games?  I don’t think my 14-year-old-brain would have made the connection to the politics and governmental allegory.  Harry Potter?  Please, I can’t even begin... that’s another writing of its own.

I don’t think books are the only medium to which this philosophy applies.  I think of movies, TV shows, songs that I have loved and hated, and I might feel differently about them now if I were to experience them for the first time again.  I think of how I have avoided things I thought inane or above me only to discover, at the right time, they are exactly what I need.

Now for my admission, much to the dismay of many of my friends and the delight of my sister and niece: I have discovered the Twilight series.  Mind you, I have not read the books but watched the movies.  I have read the summaries of the books, looked for clips of the last movie that I haven’t seen yet, and researched some of the themes.  I have even downloaded one of the songs from a soundtrack.  


I find this laughable, truly.  I am not a vampire or a romance kind of reader.  I mean, there were werewolves in Harry Potter, but they weren’t quite the same.  There has been romance in many of the books I have read, but it’s never been the central plotline.  That I have become so transfixed with this particular series has intrigued me, and thanks to a little research and reflection, I have realized it captivates me because of the themes: that each of us can choose our paths not based on things beyond our control but rather based on who we want to be, and that when you love someone, you want to protect them from the hurts of the world.  The former is something I have been working on for the past several months while the latter is something I have always believed.

They say the taste buds regenerate every 5-7 years.  If this holds true, what we once find sour may become sweet, and what we once find savory may become bitter.  The important thing, I have learned, is to be open not only in trying something for the first time.  Sometimes, our appetites change with the experiences we have.  The aroma that once made us turn our noses begins to draw us in, and the favorite tang of a trusted dish becomes bland.  We will not know unless we sample the dish.

I Take It Personally

Dear Teenagers:

If you have ever wondered why a teacher gets angry when you have a lame excuse for being in the hall, or why a teacher raises her voice when you try to justify being late to class, or why a teacher stops talking altogether after the seven hundredth time you say “I don’t wanna do the vocabulary,” I am going to give you the answer.

It is because we spend countless hours planning lessons we hope will be engaging, challenging, and relevant.  It is because we spend countless hours aching over students who do not achieve or understand.  It is because we sacrifice time and sleep and energy because we want YOU to succeed.  

It is because I take it personally when I tax my physical and sometimes mental health to give you the priceless gift of education the best way I know how and you skip class, yelling as you roam the halls and distracting the kids who do care.  It is because I take it personally when I invest time and money to learn new ways to engage you and you mock it or ignore it.  

It is because I take my job personally.  Because it means something to me to help students see the world beyond the city limits in which they live.  It means something to me to see a student get it, the a-ha moment, after struggling for days or sometimes years.  

You mean something to me.  

And when you swear at me, or ignore me, or roll your eyes, or put your head down, I take it personally.

Sincerely,

Teachers Everywhere